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I am a regular on these boards. I recently discovered my significant other is in a relationship with someone online but to my knowledger they hvae never met. It is very much like what happened with the guy in the first post at this link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t67506/
Please read it, the only differences are that no one in my situation has kids and my concern is more with "emotional infidelity". I'm kind of cracking up here and would like to hear anything you guys could offer me. Like i said, I'm a regular here, but plz don't turn this into a figure out who I am thing. I'm doing my best to post anonymous because its a touchy subject.
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So...you want us to do what? Safety + Peace
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dump that broad seriously, what the fuck?
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Just some advice... I'm freaking out and tired of the bullshit, and I want to know what people here would do
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End it. Your "significant other" wants to have their cake and eat it too. Stop giving her/him the satisfaction. If you end it, you may be down for a while, but nobody deserves to be taken advantage of in a relationship. After the split, your ex-other may move on to this other person, but eventually, you'll end up with someone you deserve. Then you will be truly happy.  HAHA stupid horse, the sign says Deer crossing Cantrip wrote:For all you know, you may have been dessert on a day-long cock-feast.
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anon1234 wrote:Just some advice... I'm freaking out and tired of the bullshit, and I want to know what people here would do Would you like to continue your relationship with her? That's the key question. Personally, I would probably gather as much evidence as I could as a first step. Cheaters lie, evidence doesn't. Whether you try to keep her or throw her away it's the only thing that can cut through the bullshit. As with the post you linked to, he is married and you two are in couples therapy? Razor wrote:Killing people is good therapy.  
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get in contact with the girl's SO (if there is one) or friend or some other feller. Work the angles, make the split happen easily. If the problem persists then yeah, tonka-truck that shit. Safety + Peace
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anon1234 wrote:Just some advice... I'm freaking out and tired of the bullshit, and I want to know what people here would do As this obviously is a major issue to you, you need to confront this person. If you are positive about this online relationship then you need to let them know that it is unacceptable. Only you know the emotional equity you have invested in the relationship. You have to be prepared to part company if need be. It is easy for us to be arm chair quarterbacks but at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you. Life is too short to be miserable.
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I always try to put myself in other shoes and see what my response would be. Most of the time the immediate response is the most honest one and the later responses are the smart ones. They rarely ever match. Immediate response was based on cheating girlfriend past of my own and came out like this: Fuck you! (to cheating partner) You are mine. I am yours %100. How do I somehow deserve less than this? Everything I have done in my life to this moment has been to make our mutual future together brighter and yet that isn't enough for you? Is my continued relationship with you so expendable as to warrent the risk of these intentional encounters? The grass is always greener on the other side! So go mow someone elses fucking lawn! The later and smarter thought out response: You can't be trusted right now. Trust is a fragile thing to piece back together once it is broken and sometimes all you get is a glass bridge between partners when repaired. I know it is best for the two of us to say goodbye to one another before this gets too ugly. It does hurt me to leave as I know it hurts you, but we both know that there is a core feeling inside us that knows this is the right thing for us to do in order for us to both negate any further emotional damage and to ensure positive growth in ourselves for any future relationshp we may have with others. I'm not running away from a problem im walking away from a mistake that I made in laying my trust in someone that did not reciprocate or deserve the gesture. You can't be trusted and I am unwilling to continue to sacrifice my well being.
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Sound advice all around here. I've been cheated on. I ended it. It took awhile, but I got over him and found the love of my life. Sometimes the best things for you are the most painful... but they're worth it in the end! wrote:{pDs} TitaniumPhoenix: We're Mexican. I say we pull a razor outta our titties and cut them!
[CMS]Noobina: omg thats where you keep yours too?! wrote:{pDs} TitaniumPhoenix: You mean that's not you in my titties? THEN WHO IS IT? D:
{pDs} Razor: I don't know but I would imagine if you push them together you would probably hear AFLAC!!! 
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We've talked, it almost ended. It didn't, but it's going to take a long time for me to trust the person I thought was the love of my life again. It kinda feels like I caved, but not entirely. I tracked down the spouse of the other person on Facebook and emailed them a couple of the nastier chatlogs. To my knowledge, they hvaen't spoken again.
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That is all you can do. Good luck.
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anon1235 wrote:We've talked, it almost ended. It didn't, but it's going to take a long time for me to trust the person I thought was the love of my life again. It kinda feels like I caved, but not entirely. I tracked down the spouse of the other person on Facebook and emailed them a couple of the nastier chatlogs. To my knowledge, they hvaen't spoken again. That's great. Are you two in couples therapy? If not, it couldn't hurt. A word of advice on the trust thing, you won't know you can trust her until she thinks she can get away with it again. In the meantime, demand transparency always. Razor wrote:Killing people is good therapy.
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Dick Cheney's Mechanical Heart wrote:That's great. Are you two in couples therapy? If not, it couldn't hurt. A word of advice on the trust thing, you won't know you can trust her until she thinks she can get away with it again. In the meantime, demand transparency always.
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